A healthy mind

I chose a picture at 10 years after my youngest daughter was born, because 3 months is where everyone kept telling me I’d be “back” to where I was. I’d have the fitness SnapBack. That wasn’t my journey. I was not disappointed....nor was I sad that I didn’t live up to the expectation a lot of people had on me. In fact, I was the opposite; I was happy, proud and body positive. And my mind was healthy.

I’m now equally happy, healthy and emotionally strong for my children, life and career. I truly believe that giving yourself patience, grace and kindness each day leads to progress and strength.

So what matters most? The way we speak to ourselves. Everyone’s journey looks different, so let’s not compare.

If you’re feeling down or defeated, I want you to start with kindness. Everything you say to yourself is important because it’s listening.

Start with: “I am beautiful. I am capable. I am worthy of my goals and dreams. I can do this. I am loved. And I am so grateful for this body, my beating heart, and my beautiful mind.”

Once you get to a better tomorrow, bring along a reminder of where you once were, a reminder to always stay humble, yet feisty and grateful.

Every decision you make, make it with self-love and the fact that you deserve it. Love and kindness are all we need.

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Life is pretty amazing

Happy Mother's Day!

• The reality of having children •

It’s been a while since a little voice was saying: “Mummy, it’s morning time”, whilst I’d barely nodded off. I was told years ago by my children’s nanny whom I asked after a very difficult day at work when I came home in tears, to please tell me honestly, hoping for that ‘oh yes it does get easier’ answer....when mine were still very little that apparently it gets worse when they become teenagers and you lie awake watching the clock, and not wanting to look like a psychotic parent texting your child every half hour, until they come home. I can now for sure say that the childminder was right, and that it does get worse during teenage years. I’ll likely never sleep well again. It’s a good job they give me such joy in my (many) waking hours.

Immensely proud pretty much all of the time but (unfortunately) there are moments that just completely tip you over the edge....that nearly, very nearly bring you to literally wanting to pack your bags and bugger off somewhere fun with no responsibilities whatsoever! And after a few rough months, I nearly got tipped recently.

Then you have a chat in the mirror and remind yourself you are an adult and remember that they are still kids, learning and pushing every boundary possible, and trying to be grown up teens but still wanting to be your little ones too.

You also realise that they are a carbon copy of you (and your [ex] husband) so actually the fiery, crazy, argumentative, stroppy, sensitive, upsetting moments were really only to be expected.

You muddle your way through as best you can, wondering if you just said or did the right thing or made everything worse.

It’s just fine to feel a little heavy, and it’s just fine to just sit here and catch your breath, and it’s just fine to be a mess at times.

You often get the 'sorry mum, I am really sorry'. But you know it will happen again, hoping maybe you will handle it differently next time....maybe not. You already feel you have tried every approach possible. Positive, understanding, gentle, loving, tough love, right through to totally losing it.

You have a hug. Run through the ground rules again, ask for a bit of think-before-you-open-your-mouth in future and you move on, even though you want to stay really mad, you know it helps nobody, and after all life is far too short.

You know there are millions of mums and dads dealing with the exact same thing. Your friends reassure you they are going through the same. It’s not just you.

You still question yourself....how can this happen, am I a really bad mum, have I spoilt my child, did I make the right choices, and all the other nonsense that runs around your head. Then you have to stop otherwise you would drive yourself absolutely crazy.

Life is never perfect, no family is perfect no matter how they try to portray it on social media or when you ask them in person how they’re doing and they answer ‘all great, thanks’, don’t take it as the honest answer.

To get through these crazy days is to breathe, try and remain calm. Have a good cry when needed (I do, and often), but do not dwell on it or let the angry feelings linger because you lose precious hours of you life. Look through a few pictures or fun times and precious moments!

I hope if you have a day, hour or moment like I have recently had, you will recall reading this and smile that it really isn't just you, you are an Amazing Mum or Dad, and you will get through these challenges.

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Because when you stop and look around, no matter how difficult life may be, this life is pretty amazing, and being a mum is the best thing ever to have happened to me.

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Goodbye 2018, Welcome 2019

The pressure to have the perfect family is at its greatest. Social media is an exhibition of what the perfect family should look like. Siblings who call themselves best friends, parents or partners who never argue....

There are families that are suffering painfully from grief, families overshadowed by health issues. Single-parent families. No-parent families. Estranged families.

You can’t put a filter on your DNA. You can’t take your ancestry back to the shop and exchange it for a new one.

It takes management and boundaries; mediation and listening; curiosity and understanding; and most importantly a degree of acceptance.

Trust is the glue and the foundational principle of all successful personal and business relationships.

My journey this year hasn’t been plain sailing, there have been many tears, sacrifices, juggling motherhood and career, health concern, that awesomely scary skydive adventure for the charity close to my heart, for which I postponed a major operation, but gosh has it all been well worth it.

Keep smiling in the face of adversity. If you have a positive outlook, anything is possible. Always keep that glimmer of hope in your eyes and that burning passion inside your heart.

Being happy is contagious.

And some people just need to remember: Trust takes years to build, seconds to break, and forever to repair.

I’m thankful to my family, my friends and my colleagues for making this year successful. I’m ready to make 2019 my biggest year yet!

LOVE AND HAPPINESS. For all those less fortunate than ourselves, may this special time of the year bring peace and goodwill.

Happy, Healthy & Prosperous New Year to you, your family and loved ones!

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I’ve learned….I can’t change this, but I can conquer it!

“Dream. Inspire. Courage. Harmony.”

Forty is all about balancing family and career which provides a sense of purpose to one’s life. While this perpetual juggling act can be stressful, a 40-year-old woman has learned to combat this by surrounding herself with a supportive network of friends, and family and making time for self-care. After a decade of investing in her career, marriage and motherhood; in her forties, a woman passionately pursues the best of life. So for those who may be greeting 2018 with some apprehension, fear not, and join me in embracing the next decade with confidence, appreciation, acceptance, and passion. Because that’s what 40 year olds do best!

Click on the link below to read the full article:

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/ive-learnedi-cant-change-i-can-conquer-liz-parmar

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My life may not be perfect, but I am blessed!

Dear Self,

This is going to be your year. So dust yourself off and get started. Every time you doubt yourself know that everyone successful was once where you are - they just did not quit.

Your hardest times often lead to the greatest moments of your life. Keep the faith. It will all be worth it in the end!

Whatever your role, age or experience always keep your dreams alive, be true to yourself and always strive to be the best you can be. Keep working for what you believe in, and do not give up. You can't have a rainbow without the rain.

Turn dreams into reality. Respect yourself as no one has more power over you other than you. Belief, commitment and dedication will make sure you stay on that road to success. There's no elevator and you have to take the stairs, and meet every obstacle with positive energy and despite the odds you will win. 99% hard work - and your family & friends may think you're mad.

Keep looking up. That's the secret of life. In time, things will fall in the right place....

In 2016 I took the difficult decision to leave a secure job for much needed work-life balance. As a single mum (solely my decision, but a thoroughly thought-through one with my children at a forefront of my mind) for quite few years juggling parenthood as mum and dad rolled into one, has admittedly got the better of me. I have endured. I have been broken. I have known hardship. I have lost myself. Life has knocked me down a few times. It has shown me things I never wanted to see. But here I stand, still moving forward, growing stronger each day. I will never forget the harsh lessons in my life. They made me stronger.

For all of my connections, some I know very well through business as well as personally, some I don't know so well, and some I do not know at all, but it is wonderful to feel like one big “family”, and who have or are going through difficulties, you will be okay - we must take the good with the bad, learn from those painful experiences and always look on the bright side, smile and enjoy life and have fun along the way.

I'm a big believer if you find the happiness, success will follow. Happiness encourages good life decisions, wonderful relationships, and opens up doors to great opportunities. It's a beautiful thing when a career and a passion come together! I also try to focus on what’s important and capture the good times, develop from the negatives, and if things don’t work out like they (unfortunately) haven’t over the past many months, take another ‘shot’.

I know there will be a few times in your life when all your instincts will tell you to do something, something that defies logic, upsets your plans, and may seem crazy to others. Sometimes the only way to stay sane is to go a little crazy. Life is too short, life is a one-time offer - Maintain the smile, Forget the tears – Life is Beautiful! Listen to your instincts, ignore the odds, ignore the complications and just go for it.

2017.... my first ever magazine advertising ~ amazing is the feeling!

More success.

More happiness.

More laughter.

More positive.

Less negative.

Life's like a mirror – it'll smile at you if you smile at it. When you are interested in something that means so much to you, go at it full speed, embrace it, hug it, love it and above all be passionate about it. Remember – never give up on something you really want. While on this ride called “career”, you have to take the good with the bad, smile when you are sad, love what you have got and remember what you had. It’s the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting. My dream is coming true!

Read my full article in Luxury News Online

Onwards & Upwards 2017 and beyond! xx

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